Tuesday, August 16, 2005

TIPS FOR A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Bismillahirahmanirrahim



Well, whoever is in a relationship would want to maintain the relationship right? Especially when one individual has found the ‘perfect’ couple…. Well, for me…a relationship does not only concern someone that we love and trust…but to other people who is around us. As for me, my life as an educator too need some guidance for a healthy relationship between me and my students…. Well..I hope some of these stuff I picked up would be a great help……tapi sangat2 general dan lebih terfokus kepada yang nak buat kawan2 baru la kan... dan a few tips yang sangat GENERAL. - eh am i repeating my self or am i doing it PAST TENSE?? *maati la ah Kiew!!





Here are some tips for starting a healthy dating relationship and ways to stay safe:


Ini untuk kategori kawan-kawan yang baru dikenali…so these tips very seswaiiii for people who are meeting for the first time – chatters, blind dates…


Get to know a person by talking on the phone, webcam etc before you go out with them for the first time.
Go out with a group of friends to a public place the first few times you are spending time together.
Plan fun activities like going to the movies, tengok concerta ka, show ka…-as long tempat tu public giler
Be clear with the other person about what you feel comfortable doing and what time your parent(s) or guardian(s) or friend (s) expect you to be home.- PENTING SANGAT UNTUK MINORS AND ANAK DARA…(well anak2 dara, REMEMBER yang u ols tu di bawah tanggungan siapa…U ols sayang parents u ols tak??? Kene jugak menten relationship dengan parents yerrr…)- err..anak jantan pun perlu juga take note-especially bile bawak anak dara orang keluar...well..yang penting, it applies to ALL!)

Tell at least one friend, tak pun a family member where you are going, who you will be with, and how to reach you.

Tuh lah antara2 tip-tip yang harus diberi perhatian sebagai permulaan dalam memulakan persahabatan atau perhubungan sesame manusia… itu baru permulaan yerrr…….

Haaa….perluke banyak lagi? Yes… sebab…human relationship ni KOMPLEKS yer..sekompleks sukan vukit jalils itiew..yer… manakala:


Untuk menjamin sebuah relationship yang healthy…. Boleh disimpulkan beberapa point berikuts untuk direnungkan lagi bersama…(if only this blog could be read in the bilik termenung)


What ever it is,

COMMUNICATION is important.... a breakdown in communication hanya akan lead to minconception = HARU BIRU u ols...

FEEL COMFORTABLE - one has to... kalau tak selsea dangan keadaan, situasi yang anda sedang alami bersama rakan, kekasih atau dengan siapa anda berada... how are you going to enjoy urself and nak feeling-feeling...

BE YOURSELF! - tak payah nak berlakon...in a relationship takde siapa nak tengok lakonan kita yer...

PERCAYALAAAHHH!!!! - TRUST...penting...ibarat garam penyedap rasa dalam relationship..still takleh lelebih kang kene highblood dan kalau kurang..tawar laks..

KENALI DIRI SENDIRI DAN BERPEGANG TEGUH KEPADANYA... (erm NYA ni bukan PASANGAN ANDA YERRR!!!) insyaALLAH..God Willing...akan lancarlah perhubungan itu..SILATURRAHIM u ols....

and to finish off....

express your opinions and have them respected (even if your partner does not agree with you)- COMMUNICATION people!!!!

take the relationship slow and only progress at your own pace -


have your feelings about any sexual activities respected;


have your physical and emotional needs regarded as important as your partner's; and not be physically, sexually or emotionally abused

Yang sedang bercintun-cintan, asyuk-masyuk also perlu tahu perkara2 ini:

Know the danger signs - You can tell if you are in an abusive relationship by keeping an eye out for these danger signs:
control
is when your partner wants to know your every move and checks up on you;
will not allow you to make your own decisions; and/or
threatens or forces you to do things against your will;


jealousy and isolation
are when they cut you off from your friends or family;
control your life through jealousy - you may not do things that you would normally do because you are worried about how your partner will react; and/or
causes trouble when you talk to other people;

ok, this always worry me..be it in a general relation or a special relationship...when one of the two begin to get dominant, one shopuld put on guard... think of ourselves more than the other, always keep a higher percentage of feelings to ourself than to give to the other...AND...the most percentage SHOULD be given to our Creator.....bukan ape ye, diri kita ni fragile, we are meant to be fragile...paling strong sekali pun, silap haribulan (kerana cinta..aku kembara...-ala-ala) THE OTHER HALF COULD JUST SNAP YOU...ini TIDAK healthy..........



Remember that healthy relationships are about feeling good about who YOU are and
feeling SAFE with another person. You have the power to create healthy
relationships all around you just by paying attention to who you are inside and
what makes you happy. By getting to know yourself, it will get easier to
recognize the differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships.
Communication, trust and respect are the key ingredients for healthy
relationships.

If you don't feel that there is communication, sharing
and trust, you are probably in an unhealthy relationship. You may want to try
talking to the other person about how you are feeling. You
may even need to end the relationship
. If it's hard for you to stop
spending time with the other person because you care about them, talk about how
to make your relationship healthier or ask a trusted adult for advice. By
learning how to build healthy relationships now, you will be able to have
healthy relationships with the people you meet throughout your life!

Well, itu sahaja hidangan saya untuk assignment pertama saya.... aiyoh..ingatkan senang...tapi tidak yer... I learnt a few things jugak buat entry nih... well, semua ini biasanya di bawah sedar pemikiran kita...tapi bila di ketahui sedikit cabang ilmu itu...iskks...berharga sungguh ilmu yang diperoleh itu...so manakala..
Subhanallah Alhamdulillah Lailahailallah Allahuakbar

11 Comments:

At Wed Aug 17, 12:11:00 AM 2005, Anonymous spinsukakorek said...

ai fifth.. i found ur entry to be very informative.. shall i vote. yerp definitely. tapi tak tahu kat mana. i like the part of jeles meles thing. it contributes large portion to keharmonian umah tangga. ngahahahhahaha.. gaya bahasa tuh kasik klakar ckek arr. tapi readable. tak la macam blog kawan yang sorang tuh.. erKkKK blog sarkes katanyaaaa **mati la spin!

 
At Wed Aug 17, 12:47:00 AM 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said...

A straightforward magazine style article! If I want to read something like this, I will go to the library and read books or look in any women’s magazine that has lots of advertisement in it.

If read, without giving any attention to the heading, I would probably guess that you are writing on “ways to restrain from getting rape on your first date”, then when I read further I realized you are suggesting ways on how to ensure your partner will not leave in a relationship, “Kamal Affendi” style.

But I do agree with your argument and I also believe that communication is one of the most important aspects in keeping a healthy dating relationship. It is a good and balance article, focusing on both sides; the partner and you, not negating empowerment and individual rights.

However, the colour of the font, its structure and placing are no help at all. I skipped most of the words just to get to the exciting part, but I did not fine anything fun. It may not be fun, but it is a very constructive and practical suggestion. If possible, since it is your blog, you should refer to some of your own previous experience to give it a more personal touch *matilah takde element past tense, binasalah pondan past tense*


“KATAKAN TAK NAK PADA UNHEALTHY DATING RELATIONSHIP”

JURY D

 
At Wed Aug 17, 12:59:00 AM 2005, Blogger Fish of Pisces @ 5th_E said...

Thanks Jury D.. needed that constructive review.

 
At Wed Aug 17, 01:25:00 AM 2005, Anonymous faizaru said...

informative nyehhh...mek sukeee!!tp too wordy mek pemalas sikit :p...tp dgn adanya gambar2/font berwarna2 yg menceriakan alam mek sukeee.*maatila mek english fail.ihiks.neway gj uols!

 
At Wed Aug 17, 01:32:00 PM 2005, Anonymous Jury B said...

I thought I was reading a page out of Dr Phil handbook.

Layout and presentation is above average.

 
At Wed Aug 17, 01:59:00 PM 2005, Anonymous JURY A said...

Content & relativity to topic: Aery good

Originality:
Average

Style & Creativity:
Below average

 
At Wed Aug 17, 02:49:00 PM 2005, Anonymous Jury C said...

Hi u ols!

Hmmmm ....hey... you know what… I could turn a depiction of this entry into:

"Tips on how to write an exciting blog entry"

hiks.. let me try..

COMMUNICATION is important....>> betul tuh.. memang penting..when you are certain of the message that you want to impart to your readers.. you’ll be able to communicate (read : write your entry) easily.

FEEL COMFORTABLE - >>You know what 5th_E, Mak truly comfortable with how you chose your words and expressions. Use this advantage for your future assignments. Avoid feeling restricted to the topic given. It’s your blog, therefore you may choose how you want to write it. For instance relating the topic to your own experience in relationship or the experience of others around you ker?

BE YOURSELF! – >>You know what does this mean kan? Simply be bold enough to show your true colours in expressing how you feel about the assigned topic. Orang Kedah kata “take the bull by the horns” hiks

PERCAYALAAAHHH!!!! - TRUST.....>> betul tu.. lepas you’ve drafted your entry.. you might have some hesitations like..” ok ke apa yg mak tulis ni.. alamak, ada org suka ke?” Hey.. trust your own judgment. A piece of writing material lies in the eyes of the beholder. Some ppl may like it and some ppl may not.. Just believe in yourselves.

KENALI DIRI SENDIRI DAN BERPEGANG TEGUH KEPADANYA... >> pun sama.. if you believe that your writing speaks for a stand that you truly hold… just stick to it! and remember.. readers love originality..


and to finish off....

express your opinions and have them respected…..>> HAHAHAH.. YG NI PALING BEST.. RESPECT YOUR OWN ENTRY! TAKE PRIDE OF IT. Pasti anda akan puas dengan hasil kerja anda..


Sekianlah petua2 penulisan dan Cik Seri Sialan untuk hari ini..

Good luck dude!

Jury C: mak dah lama minat hasil2 kerja make up u ols,,, terutama make up miss-miss yg lepas.. bersih noks!

 
At Wed Aug 17, 11:02:00 PM 2005, Blogger Fish of Pisces @ 5th_E said...

Thank u juries....really appreciate ur views. InsyaALLAH....

 
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