TIPS FOR A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Bismillahirahmanirrahim

Well, whoever is in a relationship would want to maintain the relationship right? Especially when one individual has found the ‘perfect’ couple…. Well, for me…a relationship does not only concern someone that we love and trust…but to other people who is around us. As for me, my life as an educator too need some guidance for a healthy relationship between me and my students…. Well..I hope some of these stuff I picked up would be a great help……tapi sangat2 general dan lebih terfokus kepada yang nak buat kawan2 baru la kan... dan a few tips yang sangat GENERAL. - eh am i repeating my self or am i doing it PAST TENSE?? *maati la ah Kiew!!





Here are some tips for starting a healthy dating relationship and ways to stay safe:

Ini untuk kategori kawan-kawan yang baru dikenali…so these tips very seswaiiii for people who are meeting for the first time – chatters, blind dates…

Get to know a person by talking on the phone, webcam etc before you go out with them for the first time.
Go out with a group of friends to a public place the first few times you are spending time together.
Plan fun activities like going to the movies, tengok concerta ka, show ka…-as long tempat tu public giler
Be clear with the other person about what you feel comfortable doing and what time your parent(s) or guardian(s) or friend (s) expect you to be home.- PENTING SANGAT UNTUK MINORS AND ANAK DARA…(well anak2 dara, REMEMBER yang u ols tu di bawah tanggungan siapa…U ols sayang parents u ols tak??? Kene jugak menten relationship dengan parents yerrr…)- err..anak jantan pun perlu juga take note-especially bile bawak anak dara orang keluar...well..yang penting, it applies to ALL!)

Tell at least one friend, tak pun a family member where you are going, who you will be with, and how to reach you.

Tuh lah antara2 tip-tip yang harus diberi perhatian sebagai permulaan dalam memulakan persahabatan atau perhubungan sesame manusia… itu baru permulaan yerrr…….

Haaa….perluke banyak lagi? Yes… sebab…human relationship ni KOMPLEKS yer..sekompleks sukan vukit jalils itiew..yer… manakala:

Untuk menjamin sebuah relationship yang healthy…. Boleh disimpulkan beberapa point berikuts untuk direnungkan lagi bersama…(if only this blog could be read in the bilik termenung)

What ever it is,

COMMUNICATION is important.... a breakdown in communication hanya akan lead to minconception = HARU BIRU u ols...

FEEL COMFORTABLE - one has to... kalau tak selsea dangan keadaan, situasi yang anda sedang alami bersama rakan, kekasih atau dengan siapa anda berada... how are you going to enjoy urself and nak feeling-feeling...

BE YOURSELF! - tak payah nak berlakon...in a relationship takde siapa nak tengok lakonan kita yer...

PERCAYALAAAHHH!!!! - TRUST...penting...ibarat garam penyedap rasa dalam relationship..still takleh lelebih kang kene highblood dan kalau kurang..tawar laks..

KENALI DIRI SENDIRI DAN BERPEGANG TEGUH KEPADANYA... (erm NYA ni bukan PASANGAN ANDA YERRR!!!) insyaALLAH..God Willing...akan lancarlah perhubungan itu..SILATURRAHIM u ols....

and to finish off....

express your opinions and have them respected (even if your partner does not agree with you)- COMMUNICATION people!!!!

take the relationship slow and only progress at your own pace -

have your feelings about any sexual activities respected;

have your physical and emotional needs regarded as important as your partner's; and not be physically, sexually or emotionally abused

Yang sedang bercintun-cintan, asyuk-masyuk also perlu tahu perkara2 ini:

Know the danger signs - You can tell if you are in an abusive relationship by keeping an eye out for these danger signs:
control
is when your partner wants to know your every move and checks up on you;
will not allow you to make your own decisions; and/or
threatens or forces you to do things against your will;

jealousy and isolation
are when they cut you off from your friends or family;
control your life through jealousy - you may not do things that you would normally do because you are worried about how your partner will react; and/or
causes trouble when you talk to other people;

ok, this always worry me..be it in a general relation or a special relationship...when one of the two begin to get dominant, one shopuld put on guard... think of ourselves more than the other, always keep a higher percentage of feelings to ourself than to give to the other...AND...the most percentage SHOULD be given to our Creator.....bukan ape ye, diri kita ni fragile, we are meant to be fragile...paling strong sekali pun, silap haribulan (kerana cinta..aku kembara...-ala-ala) THE OTHER HALF COULD JUST SNAP YOU...ini TIDAK healthy..........

Remember that healthy relationships are about feeling good about who YOU are and
feeling SAFE with another person. You have the power to create healthy
relationships all around you just by paying attention to who you are inside and
what makes you happy. By getting to know yourself, it will get easier to
recognize the differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships.
Communication, trust and respect are the key ingredients for healthy
relationships.

If you don't feel that there is communication, sharing
and trust, you are probably in an unhealthy relationship. You may want to try
talking to the other person about how you are feeling. You
may even need to end the relationship. If it's hard for you to stop
spending time with the other person because you care about them, talk about how
to make your relationship healthier or ask a trusted adult for advice. By
learning how to build healthy relationships now, you will be able to have
healthy relationships with the people you meet throughout your life!

Well, itu sahaja hidangan saya untuk assignment pertama saya.... aiyoh..ingatkan senang...tapi tidak yer... I learnt a few things jugak buat entry nih... well, semua ini biasanya di bawah sedar pemikiran kita...tapi bila di ketahui sedikit cabang ilmu itu...iskks...berharga sungguh ilmu yang diperoleh itu...so manakala..
Subhanallah Alhamdulillah Lailahailallah Allahuakbar